Choosing Friends Who Water You

This month, I’ve been intentional about making time with my friends feel meaningful while also honoring my own needs. I’ve been shopping, having girls’ nights, and enjoying nights out—but with purpose. Every time I see my friends, I’m honestly shocked because we’re almost a year post-graduation. Life moved fast. And now, I’m finally settling into this new season, making sure I pour into friendships that understand boundaries, communication, and growth.

When I was in college, going out and partying felt like the default. My friends loved it, and I got caught up in making sure that’s all we ever did. But now that college is over, I want more than “fun party Kiyara.” I want to be the friend you take out during the day. I want friendships that normalize coffee dates, museums, concerts, craft nights, and even traveling. I want memories that feel full—not rushed, not loud, just intentional.

I’m grateful to say I have friends in my life now who truly help water me. Out of respect and confidentiality, I’ll give them nicknames—because these relationships are sacred to me.

AL has been my friend since college, and we made a promise to do something together at least once a month. She’s someone I can talk to without hesitation, without fear. She’s helped me mentally navigate life after school and explore my career path with clarity and calm. That kind of support is priceless.

My besties SB and JC are like the older sisters I didn’t know I needed. They’ve taught me—repeatedly—that it’s okay to stand up for myself and choose myself. My happiness matters. We recently had dinner together outside of our professional roles, and it was such a full-circle moment. Seeing them on a personal level reminded me how important it is to connect beyond titles and work.

Then there’s BWG—my girl. We’ve been riding the waves of adulthood together, and watching her grow in her art career is inspiring. We’ve had our on-and-off moments, but we always find our way back to each other. That’s family. After all these years, the love and growth we share is unmatched.

G and J are my newer trio, and the joy is effortless. We have girls’ nights, craft nights, movie nights, and trips planned. We’re heading to Michigan soon, and I’m already excited—but honestly, just being together is enough. Eating, laughing, and sharing stories fills my cup every time.

I no longer have space for people who only want “party Kiyara” and drain energy they never intend to refill. I’m moving differently now. If I walk away, that’s my choice—and it doesn’t need drama. Just peace.

Choosing friends who water you is choosing yourself. And that’s a decision I’ll stand on.